Communication

Communication is definitely not my strongest point. People have told me that I have a way with words when they read the stories or journal entries I've written. But when it comes to communicating and having a relationship with people, that's where the issue is. I've recently learned a new aspect of Paul's saying, "I have become all things to all people." Each person requires us to interact with then in a different way. Some prefer to ask the questions, some prefer to answer, some prefer to just talk, some prefer to listen, and some prefer to just sit in silence. Depending on my mood and my company, I could prefer any of these interactions. So how do I, a natural introvert who hates confrontation, know when to interact with people how? Trial and error only works for so long until the relationship is broken. And what if I desire a certain relationship with someone who desires a different relationship with me? I mean, what if my preference is different from theirs? Someone said they need to accept me for who I am and not try to change me. But relationships are about compromise. And if my preference is hindering something, then I need to learn to change.

(side note-this is not referencing relationships with significant others, but with friends. Please don't take these thoughts as relationship advice!)

Now I'm wishing I would have taken a communication class in college. Though texting is perfect for an introvert like me, I'm not a fan of it because you can't hear tone of voice. Yes, you can use CAPS and symbols !?" but what if someone always ends everything with '...' ? What does that mean? With in-person conversations you can hear tone of voice and see facial expressions and body language. It may be more awkward face-to-face, but there is less miscommunication.

So, back to the Bible. I need to become all things to all people and learn how to communicate with each person according to their preference, not only so I don't lose friends, or potential friends, but also so I don't ruin a potential witnessing opportunity.

God, please help me communicate better and build better relationships!